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Men, how can you become more attractive to women? Would you like it if woman would give you the eye like they do James Bond? Do you have a secret or not-s0-secret desire to be able to walk into a room and have every woman’s head turn? Watch what Christine Myrick is teaching men that is doing just that.
Or, read the interview transcription below:
Dan: Hi! My name is Dan Powers, I’m with Beyond the Bedroom and we’re here with Christin Myrick today to talk about her class and a little bit about her and Beyond the Bedroom coming up in October, so Christin, thank you for being a presenter. I’ve courted her for a couple years now to be a presenter, she’s always have something going on like a wedding
Christin: My wedding
Dan: Hers, yeah but it’s really great to have her this year comfortably on the bedroom. I think what she’s got to talk about is going to be valuable for many of our participants, in particular the men. This is something that we’re focusing on a little bit. Tell me a little bit about yourself.
Christin: I’m a Capricorn, no I’m just kidding.
Dan: So you’re not a Capricorn?
Christin: No I am a Capricorn
Dan: So you are kidding about that.
Christin: I just got married, like Dan said. I’m really excited to present it beyond bedroom. I love everything about what Dan is expecting. About me, I bake, that’s exciting. I work with men; this is probably what you really want to know. I work with men, I’m a men’s coach and I help good guys become better men through their authenticity and solidarity. I teach them how to align with their true self so that they can have more connection and deeper experiences in their life and in their love.
Dan: Nice, so that’s why I think this is going to be so valuable for a lot of our audience. How did you got into this?
Christin: I got into this because I used to be a civil engineer and my…
Dan: So you’re no longer a civil engineer?
Dan: You lost your education?
Christin: No, I just don’t remember much of it.
Christin: But it was a lot of fun and a lot of my fellow colleagues would always come and ask me questions that I found that I enjoy talking to me more than doing computer work and at the same time I was also experiencing a life that was very numb, it was very checked out, I was very sexually turned off. It was just numb and someone I fell in love with said “you got to figure this out. I don’t care what you have to do, just figure this out.” So I went and got training in coaching and sexuality and therapy and all kinds of stuff and along the way I learned that I really enjoy working with men and they were some of my greatest fears and I just have a profound gratitude for what’s possible when a man is in his masculine.
Dan: Nice, nice and I’ve taken a lot of her classes and it is fun to watch her deal with these guys, especially when she wears the nice dresses and outfit that she wears. She’s beautiful as you can tell and it’s a real treat to see her like that.
Christin: Thank you
Dan: Your class, you’re already a great lover, mindful sexuality for men is going to be taught at beyond the bedroom this year. Tell us a little bit about that class.
Christin: The class is going to be, I’m not a big fan of just talking at people. I really like to get people involved in experiences. This doesn’t mean that I’m going to ask them to get naked and stuff like that. It’s more about understanding what kind of lover you already are and then capitalizing on that information so that you can be more, I would say connected. I’m not sure.
Dan: You’re not sure?
Christin: Yeah, shaved.
Dan: Especially for bolder.
Christin: Right, you connected
Christin: You can have an intimate experience the more that you draw upon who you really are and then the more you draw upon who you really are the more vulnerable it is and the more vulnerable it is, the more connected it is and when that happens it is almost a guarantee that the woman or partner that you’re with have a kick-ass time because you’re into it.
Dan: Nice, so what specifically are you going to teach us?
Christin: I’m going to teach you a little bit about some of tools that help you get to uncovering what kind of lover you are. Some of those tools are attention, understanding the quality of essence that you bring so everybody has a different flavor and the more range you have in your love making skills, the more fun and play you can bring in. I want to talk a little bit about how to move from different flavors within yourself and then also what to look for in your partner so that when you are in love making, you can connect deeply and the whole experience is more pleasurable with the tools you already have so you’re not going to be learning any new techniques. It’s going to be drawing upon things you already contain inside of you.
Dan: You mentioned attention being one of the keys and that is so important. It’s something that we teach at our classes. We just started class this last weekend at our Eyes festival and it was on erotic massage and one of the key tenants to giving a really good erotic massage is focus and attention. If I’m sitting here thinking about something else and giving a massage, then it’s not going really going to be erotic, sensual or fun for anybody. That’s a really good tip and you’ll learn more if you’re in the bedroom for sure.
Christin: In a very fun way
Dan: Nice, so what else can you tell me?
Christin: I can tell a lot of things
Dan: Okay, my mind just gone blank. You’ve already said what you’re going to do if you’re in the bedroom, why you’re excited about doing it. I think we finished the interview and we need to go. Actually people I talk to just kind of run it down a lot so it took a lot longer.
Christin: Did you want to ask about, one of the questions when I had was “do you have any real world examples of someone who’s strange?”
Dan: That and more about you as far as how to get in touch with you
Christin: Oh, okay
Dan: And talk about what you do outside of…you do coaching but what does that look like? What was the first thing?
Christin: She, the question I remember her asking is…
Dan: Oh real life examples.
Christin: Real life examples and why would people come is the question that I remembered.
Dan: Go for it then I can run [6:37-6:40]
Christin: I’m sorry, okay. Sometimes they’re like, they’re crazy. Okay.
Dan: You’re ready?
Christin: I’m ready
Dan: Can you give us any examples of people that you’ve touched in some of your classes and some real life examples.
Christin: Yeah, one of my favorite examples is with a man who he wasn’t quite sure what he wanted and when he learned how to connect with any woman, I thought him some tools to connect with any woman in an intimate way, and then he came back to me and said “well now that I can connect with anybody, how do I know what I want?” He had the opposite problem. He had so many options that now he had to narrow down and get really clear on the kind of relationship that he wanted. It was just really fun to see that process from being like “I’ll never find the one” to “everyone is the one” he was so freaked out. It was awesome.
Dan: That is another huge point. I went to a dating group recently just to kind of check it out, not that I’m looking for dates and the people there were exactly in that boat. Not the boat were the good problem of there’s too many people, it’s “I’ve got this scary mentality that there’s nobody out there that’s available for me. How am I going to find a guy or a gal?” they’re just in a kind of needy, desperation state. That’s really awesome.
Christin: Yeah, but once you identify what you really want and then you identify how to create connections at will, options are endless.
Christin: It’s really beautiful
Dan: Tell us a little bit about how to get in touch with you?
Christin: The best way to get in touch of me is on my website and my name is spelled a little funny so I’m going to spell it out for you but it’s christinmyrick.com, that’s spelled c-h-r-i-s-t-i-n-m-y-r-i-c-k.com
Dan: It’s such an easy word for people to spell
Christin: I know
Dan: We put up on the screen
Christin: We put up on the screen, I’m working on it on a new…anyway, that’s a side step but that’s a great way to get hold of me. I’m on Facebook and Google plus, also great ways to get hold of me.
Dan: Are those a lot of post from you on Google plus
Christin: Yeah I’ve been infiltrating
Christin: And I have contact forms in all those places so it’s easy to send me an email, be it my website or Google plus
Dan: Now tell us a little bit about some of the classes or some of the work that you do. I know you talked about some of these things, with men that you’ve worked with but what does some of that look like?
Christin: I do, primarily I have one-on-one sessions and group sessions. In the one-on-one session it’s based on an individual outcome or contacts going on for that guy. It could be he’s looking for love of his life or he doesn’t know why he’s here in the world and work really well. We come to clear goal, that’s the objective. Guys like objectives.
Dan: We are the fix it people
Christin: I know it’s great, actually as a coach it’s awesome and then we work through the different tools of attention and awareness and presence that can get you what you want. That’s the one-on-one work. In the group settings, there’s like these rotating groups that I do every month. I have a meet-up called the better man meet-up and those are various topics about masculinity and leadership and connection and beyond that I have weekend extensive that cover the principles and foundations, content that I’ve created about how to self-resource your masculinity within you and how to move through situations that come up so you can be more aligned with yourself and with people that you love. There’s a lot of emotion at that.
Dan: Perfect. What kind of men do you look for?
Christin: I look for the men that I have the most, that get the most bang for their buck at what I do. Those types of men are usually, not always but very frequently are usually very intelligent. They have some kind of computer job or doctor job or something and they want to have connection and they don’t know how to get there so there’s something that they want, that they create and that they yearn for and they don’t even know what it is and that usually is something like intimacy and purpose.
Dan: You see a lot more men in particular, because that’s what you’re focused on, of becoming that way because of social media and our gadgets and our iPads and our phones and we do Twitter and Facebook connecting so we don’t have to connect to personal people.
Christin: I think of that as a side effect and this might be a polarizing argument but it’s my observation that a lot of men are emasculated and that they’re not taken seriously or treated like men. They’re treated like boys or like women and so they’ve lost the ability over time to look within themselves and find the answer in the truth and standup for that answer in the truth in the world.
Dan: That’s great because I agree with you. I may be polarizing or not, I don’t know but I actually know this because it is. I agree with you exactly. I think our society repressed men from being who we are and it is kind of deserved because you come across with such masculine power, take versus communicate and negotiate and work with each other and some men have gone the complete opposite way. They become so feminine that they just don’t have any kind of masculinity at all.
Christin: Yeah no desire, I mean…
Dan: I don’t think they necessarily don’t have desire. I think they might have desire but they don’t know how to show that. They come up to a woman, especially a pretty woman like yourself; they’re going to be very shy because I don’t want to offend you or anything like that. I’m going to sit here and hope that you’re going to notice me and then you’ll kind of take over which is more of the masculine energy that men, I should say woman should suppose to take but traditionally do take on but we also don’t like the men that come up and say “hey baby, I’m going to take you. I’m going to beat you with the head of my hammer and haul you back over to my cave and own you.”
Dan: Yeah, it’s not that kind of negotiation but I think if a man comes to you and has this masculine energy, even a sexual energy that is carried well, then things will work out nicely. It’s a lesson that you’re showing them to do.
Christin: Yeah, is to line up their words with what they desire. What ends up being creepy to woman, this is one of the biggest complaints that I hear. One of the things that we talk about frequently is that if I tell a woman what I really want, she’s going to think I’m creepy. Can I swear on this?
Christin: But one of the things that I know about women is they have inherent bullshitmeters, so they know when what you’re saying doesn’t match up with what you really want. When you say something like “oh I’d love to take you and buy a teddy bear” and what you really desire is to have sex with her, she can feel that disparity. It’s the disparity that’s creepy, not what you’re saying.
Dan: The right contacts and how they would say it might work out
Dan: I saw a YouTube video recently and it was a social experiment where a woman was able to talk to a hundred different men and ask them if they would like to have sex with her and if the man said yes then they would walk off and I don’t think they actually had sex but it’s interesting that 53 of the hundred men that she asked said yes and they started to walk off so their assumption is that they’re going to have sex with her and then I think they told them that this is really a social experiment and figured out but then they did the opposite. They had a man go to a hundred different women and ask them and just not I’m hitting on you kind of way, it’s literally “would you like to have sex with me?” just walk up to them, whether they had a boyfriend with them or not and same with the woman asking the men too. By the way, most of the men who said “no” had a girlfriend or some partner, female partner that was with them. Most of the guys that were alone said “yeah” but none of the woman said yes.
Christin: Oh really?
Dan: It was really interesting. A bunch of them laugh, they thought it was just a big joke. Everybody was taken aback; it’s kind of like “what? Excuse me?” and one woman threw water in the guy’s face. He walked up to her, she was sitting in a restaurant, she was so stunned and she [water splash] and then walked off. Another one said “we’re God fearing Christians and we don’t do stuff like that” but none of them taken up on it.
Christin: None said yes, that was very interesting.
Dan: And now that was a very small population, a sample of 100 so if you try it in a thousand, wouldn’t something in there happen? The guy is a decent looking guy, at least. Nobody knows, maybe the way he asked too.
Christin: Yeah there’s all kinds of factors
Dan: Are there very last things that you’d like to add?
Christin: Come to me on the bedroom
Dan: I like that
Christin: Thank you for what you do and thank you for what you’re putting on. It’s really, it’s beautiful work.
Dan: Thank you
Christin: That’s the only thing I have to say.
Dan: I appreciate it. We look forward to seeing you everybody along with Christin at Beyond the Bedroom coming up in October. We’re very excited about it. It’s going to be a lot of fun. We’ve got a lot of things going on. I’m looking forward to seeing you.
Christin: See you soon.